While some colleges attempt to match roommates based on information gathered on housing forms (majors, hobbies, regions of the country), a match is never guaranteed. It's not unusual to end up with roommates who are stiff and structured, social butterflies and nose-in-the-book academics -- all in one room.
Here are some successful tips to help adjust to your new roomie situation.
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
A key to successful adjustment is communication. You need to share openly on such issues as cleanliness, visitation, music, study time and lights out.
Balance Compromise
Keep a balance of rights and compromise. Be flexible, but not at the expense of your studies or health. Honor your roomie's rights to guests and socializing; after all, they are paying for the room, too.
Set Policies
Whether you or your roommate has a car, set policies on borrowing the car or giving rides, taking into consideration gas, mechanical expenses and scheduling. Set a policy about borrowing each other's clothes to avoid problems when clothing is borrowed without asking. Set a policy about whatever it is you think could potentially be an issue in advance.
And remember, you aren't the only one who is homesick, disoriented or undergoing roommate conflict. There is help available. These are just a few tips for successfull roommate situations, if you would like more information, please visit http://www.therapeuticbenefits.com/ for resources, low cost therapy in Santa Barbara, and to schedule a free phone consultation.
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